Real Talk For The Hard Days, From Someone Who’s Lived It.
Have you ever felt like life just piled on… one heavy thing after another… until you could barely breathe?
That kind of “emotionally unstable” moment where you’re crying, shaking, and wondering if you’ll ever feel normal again?
I mean, do you even know what to do when you feel helpless?
Yep. I’ve been there.
Not long ago, I had to show up in court… twice… over debt. Creditors were suing me!
(I didn’t even know that was a ‘thing’ in today’s world) But, here we are…
And then, just when I thought things might settle down, something heartbreaking happened:
A sweet feral older cat we feed every evening… we call him Bob… went blind. Overnight.
I love this cat with my whole heart.
We’ve never been able to touch him, but he trusts us enough to eat on our porch every evening.
Watching him stumble around, nearly fall off the steps, and feel his way to the food bowl… just broke me.
Was this the end of his life? Was he sick? Did he get hurt? I didn’t know.
I stood at the window crying, sick with worry and praying that God would protect him.
Then, the very next morning, a letter came from the courthouse.
I’d been waiting to hear the outcome from my last court appearance.
My husband thought they were dropping the case…
Upcoming Trial…
But when I opened that letter and saw they were moving forward… and had actually scheduled a trial a month later…
I started shaking.
I couldn’t stop.
I tried to process it. I mean… what was I gonna do?
I had no money to pay them off. I felt frozen. Small. Powerless.
Not one person in the house seemed to be upset over Bob (our sweet feral cat), OR my upcoming trial.
I felt completely helpless.
Like no one saw me. Like nothing was ever going to get better.
Maybe you’ve been there, too?
Emotional Spiral
When you’re in that place… where your heart is heavy and your hope is low… it’s easy to spiral.
You start feeling drained, feeling unappreciated, and even feeling guilty for not being stronger.
You question everything.
You might be feeling left out of a life you thought you’d be living by now. (I know I felt that way)
And you’re just… feeling off.
But friend, let me say this gently…
Just because you feel helpless… doesn’t mean you are.
There’s still something you can do.
Even if it’s small.
Even if it’s just breathing.
So… What Did I Do in That Moment?
I slowed everything down.
I took deep breaths, not to fix everything, but to remind myself I was still here.
I imagined God scooping me up in His hands like the good Father He is… strong, safe, and steady.
Then I opened my Bible. I let truth sink in.
I declared His promises out loud (because your words matter).
And I wrote it all down in my mindset journal… yes, the same process I shared in Step 1 of my simple income series… How to Change Your Mindset.
It didn’t change the court date.
It didn’t heal Bob’s eyes and body.
But it did change me.
And that gave me enough strength to show up and work on my Pinterest business.
Because even when I felt helpless, I had a plan.
I knew Pinterest takes about 3 months to start showing results… (and I had to be patient… while pushing forward)
…so I pictured what life might look like three months from now.
And that vision? It gave me hope.
Now, I’m not saying everything is magically better.
But the weight isn’t crushing me anymore.
I’m breathing again. I’m thinking clearer.
I feel something again.
Lighter. Calmer. Not so afraid.
What To Do When You Feel Helpless?
Here are a few things that helped me, and might help you too:
- Breathe deeply. Set a timer for 5 minutes and focus on just your breath. (in and out)
- Visualize peace. Imagine God holding you. He sees you.
- Speak truth out loud. Biblical declarations shift the atmosphere.
- Journal what you can do. Even one tiny step forward is a win.
- Think long-term. What will life look like in 90 days if you keep going?
A Path to Follow…
And if you need a path to follow, I can’t recommend the Pinterest Marketing Academy enough.
It gave me direction when I felt directionless.
Because it’s hard to make progress when you’re stuck in survival mode.
I breathed. I journaled. I did my declarations. I imagined God scooping me into His hands and holding me there for a while.
I even wrote down some words I didn’t know I needed… just to get them out of my heart and onto the page.
Note to self: This season is hard, but it’s not forever. You’re doing better than you think.
And something else that helped during those quiet, anxious nights was the Brilliant Movement App.
The sleep meditations brought peace to my thoughts and helped me rest instead of wrestle.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed or emotionally drained, try their 5-day FREE trial.
Just to see if it helps you feel lighter too…
Final Thoughts
By the way… If no one’s told you today… you’re doing better than you think.
Feeling helpless doesn’t make you weak.
It makes you human.
But you’ve got help, and you’ve got hope.
Keep going, my friend. 🌼
P.S.
You’re not alone. You’re not behind.
You are stronger than you think…
And this feeling?
It doesn’t get the final say. 🙏
Until next time…