How to Change Your Mindset… Step 1

The First Step to a Success Mindset (Even If Life Feels Like a Mess)

You might think your biggest challenge is tech, starting a blog, or figuring out affiliate marketing…
But the real struggle?
It’s what’s happening in your head. Yep, that’s right. How to change your mindset might be something you haven’t thought about before…

For me, the turning point wasn’t another strategy or some shiny business tools… it was the day I realized I had to fight for a better mindset.
Not because I was weak…
But because I’d spent years hearing lies that shaped what I believed about myself.

“You’re too late.”
“You’re not smart enough to make this work.”
“Why even try?”

Losing Our House

At the time, we were losing our house.

I had just lost my mom to cancer… barely holding it together through the grief.

And then, the “picture guy” from the mortgage company showed up…
(to verify the house still existed and that we were still living in it)

We were already drowning in debt.

Then came the final blow: I was served court papers at my front door… creditors suing me.

I remember clutching that paper, standing in the same spot where my kids used to play, thinking:

“God, I don’t know how much more I can take.”

And maybe… that’s where you are too… stuck in the Survival Trap. That place where you’re so overwhelmed and burned out that every new strategy feels like a threat instead of an opportunity.

Overwhelmed.

Burned out.

Wondering if you’re the problem because all the strategies feel like too much…

But then something shifted.

I came across one of the most empowering quotes that really changed me:

“Be careful of your thoughts, for they become your words; be careful of your words, for they become your actions; be careful of your actions, for they become your habits; be careful of your habits, for they become your character; be careful of your character, for it becomes your destiny.” ~ Lao Tzu

Even more powerful than that?
I opened my Bible, and this verse jumped out:

“But those things which proceed out of the mouth come from the heart, and they defile a man.” ~Matthew 15:18

And it hit me… if I wanted to change my life, I had to change what I believed.

When you’re in the Survival Trap, your brain is wired for scarcity. You choose the quickest, cheapest, and often most toxic options just to get through the day. But that cycle keeps you too tired to see the path to Abundance. To break the trap, we have to change the signal.

That’s where the success mindset starts.

Audit Your Internal “Signal”

Before we move to the tech and the strategy, we have to identify which “signal” your brain is currently sending. Most of us are stuck in Survival Mode, which makes every decision based on fear.

Which one sounds like you right now?

Or do you have an entirely different ‘survival signal’ (based off fear), running through your head?

The Action: Pick one “Survival Signal” you’ve been sending this week. Write it down, cross it out, and replace it with the Abundance Signal. This isn’t just “positive thinking”…. it’s choosing your new destination.

Challenge the lies… What are you believing that God never said? Replace it with truth.

Also, Gratitude changes perspective. This is my favorite gratitude journal.

The “Two-Minute Anchor”

(You can take this action immediately.)

The Two-Minute Pattern Interrupt

When you’re in the “Survival Trap,” your body is literally in a state of stress. To change your mindset, you often have to change your physical state first.

Do this right now:

1. Drink a full glass of water. (Dehydration mimics anxiety… clear the fog first!)
2. Stand up straight.
3. Speak this “Abundance Declaration” out loud:

“I am not a victim of my circumstances; I am a steward of my mission. I don’t need to see the whole mountain to take the first step. I am moving from Scarcity to Abundance today.”

The truth is, these thoughts aren’t just annoying… they are creative. Proverbs 23:7 tells us that ‘as a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.’ If your internal dialogue is destructive, your business results will be too. That’s why we have to move beyond just ‘thinking’ and start ‘speaking.’

Biblical Declarations

I don’t just ‘think’ happy thoughts. I use what I learned from Charles Capps in ‘Faith and Confession’… the life-changing truth that our words are like seeds.

Most people are ‘planting’ weeds in their life by saying things like ‘I’ll never afford this’ or ‘I’m so bad at tech.’ I decided to stop planting weeds and start planting the Word.

I say my Biblical Declarations every single day because I know that God gives us the power to get wealth (Deut 8:18), but that power starts with a mind that is renewed to believe it’s possible.

In his book, he explains that God’s Word is ‘spiritual law’ that works when we put it in our hearts and speak it out of our mouths.

I realized I was using my words to describe my ‘Survival’ circumstances instead of using my words to change them.

Now, I use these specific declarations to set the ‘Abundance Signal’ for my day.

Why does it work?
Because repetition rewires belief.

Over and over and over again. 🔁

“Change what you believe ➝ your belief changes your thoughts ➝ which then changes your life.”

And no, this isn’t woo-woo.
The Bible has plenty to say about the power of words and thoughts.

📚 “Faith and Confession” by Charles Capps.
Don’t walk… run to get it!

Some of my favorite Biblical declarations that I use every day:

• God delights in my prosperity. He gives me power to get wealth, that He may establish His covenant upon the earth. (Deuteronomy 8:18, 11:12)
• As I give, it is given unto me, good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. (Luke 6:38)
• I delight myself in the Lord, and He gives me the desires of my heart. (Psalm 37:4)
• My mind is renewed by the Word of God; therefore, I forbid thoughts of failure and defeat to inhabit my mind. (Ephesians 4:23)
• The Lord causes my thoughts to become agreeable to His will, and so my plans are established and succeed. (Proverbs 16:3)

Taken from God’s Creative Power for Finances by Charles Capps.

This Is Where Your Breakthrough Begins

You don’t need a perfect strategy to move forward.
You need a better mindset and the courage to believe that God’s not done with your story.

Start speaking truth.
Start believing you can.
And let the rest unfold from there.

🌸 You were made for more than the Survival Trap. You were made to thrive, to build an Abundance Engine, and to live a life that feels like a sanctuary.

“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” ~Romans 12:2

You are NOT too late.
You are NOT disqualified.
You are NOT the problem.

You just need a fresh start.
And it begins right here…

Because once your mindset shifts?
The rest becomes so much lighter.

My “Secret Weapon”

Stop Trying to Be the “Whole Team”

One of the biggest reasons we get “Mindset Freeze” is because we think we have to do the thinking of ten people. We think we have to be the Researcher, the Writer, the Tech Support, and the CEO all at once.

Here is a secret: I don’t do this alone. I use a specialized Research Assistant (a tool that’s explained more in Step 5 and Step 7) that handles the heavy lifting for me. You can find those steps on my Start Here page.

It clears the “brain fog” by doing the research and organization that used to keep me stuck. When you know you have a partner to handle the “how,” your mind is finally free to focus on the “why.”

Your Mindset Toolkit: If I Were Starting Over…

If I could go back to 2008 and give myself a shortcut to skip the years of “survival mode,” I would have started by reading and implementing these three books in this exact order. They are the “secret sauce” to the mindset you need for the rest of this roadmap:

1. Identity: The Greatest Miracle in the World by Og Mandino… You have to realize your worth and stop the toxic self-talk before you can build anything else.
2. Spiritual Law: Faith and Confession by Charles Capps… Once you know your value, you have to learn the spiritual law of your words and start speaking abundance into existence.
3. Consistency: The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson… This teaches you how to stay consistent with the small, daily disciplines that eventually lead to a massive breakthrough.

Final Thoughts

(I’m going to show you how to build your own Abundance Engine. We’ll start simple… no tech overwhelm, no complicated systems. We’re going to get you moving first, and then I’ll show you how to build a safety net (like an email list) later on to protect your future.)

I’m walking you through the exact simple path that finally worked for me… and I’m not holding anything back.
If you’re wondering what I sell or how I actually started making money… keep following these steps. 😉

It’s simpler than you think… no blog required, no tech overwhelm.

🌸 Want to see the entire Abundance Engine at a glance? Head over to my Start Here page. It’s the home base for this entire journey.

Coming Up Next:

👉 Ready for a practical way to start earning online with little tech experience?
Don’t miss Step 2: How to Make Money Online for Beginners.

God didn’t give you your gifts and your story by accident. 💛

You’ve got this! 💛